So, Valentine’s Day is coming up but you and your partner are separated by space. You may be wondering: how can we celebrate together when we’re apart?
According to Lasting, the nation’s no. 1 couples counseling app, studies show couples in long distance relationships experience the same level of relationship satisfaction as couples who are geographically close. Amazing, right? And it means there’s no reason your Valentine’s Day can’t be just as romantic, if not more so, as all your friends on Instagram who are out on the town together.
So, if you’re in a long distance relationship, here are some ways you can keep the romance alive this Valentine’s Day:
When you take the time to learn your partner inside and out, they feel seen and understood. So, what better way to show them how much you care than with a totally personalized surprise!
Start planning some ways you can surprise your partner in advance. Maybe mail them a package of their favorite snacks or have some flowers delivered to their door. Feeling extra? Send a list of clues and enlist their nearby friends to help you hide little gifts around their home or even their town. Then send them on a scavenger hunt.
You can be as creative as you like, but try to keep it a secret until the special day. The element of surprise goes a long way in fostering romance.
If you’re scrambling for ideas, we have the perfect solution: send your partner a BOXFOX. They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but we get it – long distance relationships are HARD. Need some ideas for the perfect gift to send to your boo across the country? BOXFOX makes it easy. Check out their pre curated assortment for gifts proven to WOW, or add a touch of personalization with the “build your own” option.Think: what are some of my partner’s favorite things? Coffee addict? Gift them the “Coffee” BOXFOX. Outdoorsy? Check out the “Let’s Get Away” BOXFOX. Complete with a handwritten card, this Valentine’s Day gift will be one to remember, no matter the mileage between you.
When you make memories together, you create shared meaning, which brings more value and purpose into both of your lives.
You may be asking, how can I recreate the experience of creating memories together, even when we’re apart? Answer: Add your own little twist!
Technology has made constant connection possible from all over the world. So! Make fun memories by choosing an activity you both love and then Facetiming each other as you do it “together.” Foodies? Cook a meal over the phone! If you love adventure, go hiking and share the view with your person via video.
Don’t wait until you’re in the same city to enjoy each other’s company. Use technology to your advantage and create some memorable experiences that would be just as fun in-person.
Start a Ritual
According to Lasting, rituals create routine and help you build memories, both of which strengthen your connection. But, in a survey of nearly 130,000 couples, Lasting found that 47 percent—nearly half!—had not created their own traditions and rituals.
So, this Valentine’s Day, build your bond and start a new tradition that’s “just for you.” Most couples in long distance relationships are great at these, but adding in a new one always ups the romance.
Maybe you already text each other each morning when you wake up. Why not add a note about what you appreciate about them, too? Start your ritual on Valentine’s Day and make it one to remember.
A fun and totally cost-free way to strengthen your connection is to dream together. Plan your ideal vacation, design your dream house, ask questions like: “If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?”
Don’t let this become a 5-year-plan or goal-setting time (unless you want it to!). Rather, make it a fun way to dream together and to hear each other’s vision of The Good Life. This is a great way to hear more about your partner’s inner world and for you to share your own as well.
In that same survey, Lasting found that 65 percent of couples were unsatisfied with how much intentional time they had together. Don’t let that be you! You may be apart this Valentine’s Day, but by putting in that intentional time, your holiday can be just as memorable and romantic as you’d like it to be.
For more information on how to navigate a healthy long-distance relationship, download Lasting and check out the Long Distance series.
Tired of doing long distance and ready to spend forever with your partner? Take our engagement ring quiz and send your partner your results! After all, they’re going to need some time to get shopping! ;)