How to Strengthen Your Relationship in the New Year

2020 is here and you’ve probably set some goals for the new year–and maybe even the next decade! These might include health goals, career goals, creative aspirations, and other personal endeavors. But do they include relationship goals?

A relationship with your significant other greatly affects your emotional health, but often, we don’t give it the love and attention it needs to thrive. So, as you go after your goals in 2020, don’t neglect your most important relationship. Make it a priority! Need inspiration? Here are some ways you can strengthen your bond in the new year.

Create shared goals

One of the ways you can grow closer is by creating some goals that you can achieve together. This can be as simple as reading a book together this month, or as big as getting out of debt. Maybe you’re saving for a trip of your dreams (or even your big day!), or maybe you’d both like to train for a marathon. Perhaps you’d like to serve your community more this year.

Pick a goal or two that exemplifies your shared values and then set a deadline to keep each other accountable. But make it fun! This can serve as a great way to connect with your partner in a deeper way and experience something you both value, together.

Start a new ritual


Relationship rituals are rhythms in your relationship that happen over and over again, and they’re one of the best ways to form a routine and create memories. Start a new tradition with your partner this year! Using your values and goals as a guide, look for ways to connect on a regular basis. These can be how you spend your Saturday mornings together, how you do the laundry, and how you celebrate your successes.

Rituals keep couples connected to each other through good and difficult seasons. What is one relationship ritual that you want to establish for this coming year?

Assess Your Relationship


Spend some time thinking through this last year of your relationship. Be honest with yourself about what was good, meh, and hard. Ask yourself: how am I feeling about our emotional connection? What am I needing in our relationship today? What do I want to change in our relationship this year? Then, ask your partner the same questions and compare your responses.

To successfully strengthen your relationship, you need to know what is working well and not working well.

Practice Curiosity


You and your partner are continually evolving and changing over time. Because of this, it’s important to practice curiosity toward one another so that you stay connected. Sadly, more than 23 percent of couples without kids say they don’t prioritize learning more about their partner, according to a survey by Lasting, the nation’s no. 1 relationship counseling app. Don’t be one of them!

You can learn more about each other by asking open-ended questions. When you ask your partner open-ended questions you show them that they are interesting and valuable to you. Over time, this increases your emotional connection, which is the foundation of your relationship.

Get Intentional


One of the best ways to strengthen your relationship is to seek counseling. Remember, relationship therapy is not just for unhealthy couples or even for married couples! It’s a great way to speak openly about your hopes, dreams, or concerns.

And if traditional therapy is too big a step, consider Lasting. For a fraction of the cost of just one counseling session, you’re able to take sessions on your phone and compare them with your partner any time. Sessions on Communication, Conflict, Money, Sex, and even Dating and Premarital Counseling are all available.

Also, if any of these topics feel uncomfortable to talk to your partner about, Lasting creates a safe space for you to talk through tough issues and to practice vulnerability with one another. A strong, thriving relationship is possible for you, and 2020 can be your best year yet! Tackle the new year with a resolution to prioritize your connection! You’ve got this!


Ready to start the New Year on a good note? Check out our article all about why your resolution should focus on your relationship.