Stacey and Bennett
How We Met
Bennett first asked me after we both swiped right on each other’s Tinder profiles. This popular match-making app may have a varietal reputation, but surprisingly was the way for B and I to find exactly what we were hoping for; each other. I answered “Felt”, and we messaged for a few hours about cycling, running, travelling, outlooks on life, and much more. I knew after our first conversation that I wanted him to be in my life in whatever extent I would be blessed with.
After weeks of hearing “Good Morning Stacey” followed by many warm and fuzzy conversations before I would receive a “Good night Stacey” everyday, Bennett decided it was time for a date. Even though I really enjoyed our conversations and had done enough ‘research’ to know he was a real person, I was a little hesitant for a blind date. I told him I was really busy, but he could go on a 10 mile run with me on Sunday, November 16th.
I walked in to the Filling Station and was greeted by a tall, more than handsome gentlemen with the warmest hug and the sweetest smile. “My cut-off is 18 degrees, but if it’s above that temperature are you okay with running 8-10 miles?”. He accepted my challenge with a great response, “Sure, only if we can grab coffee after at The Filling Station”.
When we expected the weather to be 17 degrees that morning, Bennett said, “Since it’s too cold to run, can we still meet for coffee and then I have an idea of something we can do that is still ‘active’, so be ready.”
I walked in to the Filling Station a little nervous and was greeted by a tall, more than handsome gentlemen with the warmest hug and the sweetest smile. We talked for two hours, finally realizing we should probably venture on to our next activity. The surprise was a tour and playing at The College Basketball experience, where we completely let our competitive flags fly high. I think he was quite surprised when I gave him a run for his money in a lot of the games and even won one. When we were done, I didn’t really want the date to end just yet and Bennett must have been feeling the same, suggesting we grab a bite to eat and watch the Chief’s game nearby.
At Johnny’s Tavern, we discussed all of the things that are deemed ‘taboo conversation points’ for a first date. We both laughed about it, but felt it was beneficial to discuss certain topics and opinions to know if there would be any point in future dates. At one time after getting up, when I was walking back to our table I spotted him across the room and remember thinking how wonderful he was, and how lucky I would be if I got to come back to his table for the rest of my life. It was completely a curious/funny thought, never expecting months later we would be where we are now. We had so much fun we barely noticed we had been together for 8 hours at the end of our date. Everything felt smooth, natural and at the same time, really exciting.
On our drive back, he dropped a bomb that we wouldn’t be going on anymore dates. He said, “from here on, we will have adventures”. We planned out our next (probably) 50 dates right there, featuring lot of brunch spots and a list of places to explore together.
On our drive back, he dropped a bomb that we wouldn’t be going on anymore dates. He said, “from here on, we will have adventures”.
Since day one, our love has been a million times bigger than I could have ever imagined or prayed for, and continues to grow. We share the same soul and have come to know that we have a handful of life parallels and things in common. We both strive everyday to be the best we can be for each other, for ourselves and for others. We love our adventures, road trips, coffee dates, running, cycling, jumping, playing, dreaming big, and spending time with friends and family. We are so fortunate to have found each other and are enjoying every day, always grateful for one more. — Stacey
how they asked
I knew Stacey was the one for me very early in our relationship.
I knew she was the one by the time February and my annual snowboarding trip rolled around. After 2 months of perusing Stacey’s Pinterest boards, I took a deep breath and submerged myself in the world of engagement rings. After looking at a couple of big box retailers, I ventured a “secret” trip to Tivol during Easter weekend, 2015. With my parents supposed to be at a different store, I met and spoke with Lisa, my guide for this journey. Naturally, my Mom walked into Tivol while I was looking at engagement rings. She never questioned it, just smiled, hugged me, and told me to be smart about my budget, like a good Momma should!
After 2 months of perusing Stacey’s Pinterest boards, I took a deep breath and submerged myself in the world of engagement rings. After looking at a couple of big box retailers, I ventured a “secret” trip to Tivol during Easter weekend, 2015. With my parents supposed to be at a different store, I met and spoke with Lisa, my guide for this journey. Naturally, my Mom walked into Tivol while I was looking at engagement rings. She never questioned it, just smiled, hugged me, and told me to be smart about my budget, like a good Momma should!
After two more trips, I found the ring, but wanted to make sure it was right, so I brought Stacey’s Matron of Honor, Allegra along for a trip. Needless to say, she was ecstatic, and even picked the same ring I had chosen! With my choice vindicated, I began the proposal planning.
Flash-forward to August, with my birthday being on Sunday, August 9th, we went out for a birthday dinner on Friday, August 7th. After much deliberation, we went to La Bodega, a Spanish tapas restaurant. I kept insisting, despite both of us not feeling too well, that we go to my favorite place in Kansas City, Martin City Brewery for a night cap.
Meanwhile, at Martin City Brewery, all of our friends and family, including Stacey’s friends from Chicago and my parents from western Nebraska, were setting up and preparing for a celebration. Huge thanks to Allegra, Kyle, and Bryna for helping to set that part up!
I gave them all a five minute warning, and the patio was quickly emptied of anyone we knew. Kyle had two cameras set up to record video (seen here!) and positioned himself very slyly with another. Stacey and I entered the restaurant with her leading the way to the patio. Since I couldn’t fit the ring box in my pocket, I had it hidden at the restaurant. After Stacey walked onto the patio, I struggled and shook my way to getting the ring into the box, and followed her onto the patio.
I grabbed Stacey’s hand and turned her to face me. As soon as her back was to the other building, all of our friends and family came pouring out, waiting for the moment to erupt, out of Stacey’s line of vision.
Believe me, I had a very sweet, romantic little speech all worked up, and had been rehearsing it all day in my head. Naturally, as soon as we walked outside and I took Stacey’s hand, my mind went blank. I got through the first part as I looked into her beautiful baby blue eyes,
“Stacey, these past few months have been the best of my life. You love me for all that I am, and make me better. I love you so much. Will you marry me?”
SHE SAID YES!
And we kissed….maybe a bit more than we should have…as one of her friends, Jessica shouted “Gettin’ steamy!” we let go of our embrace. Then she turned around and saw all of our friends and family, and the celebration began. That celebration has yet to end, because every day with Stacey in my life is a celebration of everything I could ever want in a partner, and more. – Bennett