How We Met
January 2018: when my dad was officially diagnosed with stage four cancer, but also when I met the love of my life – Sunit
How They Asked
I can’t say it was the worst year of my life because I lost my angel, but gained my new one at the same time. Sunit has been there for me since day 1, and I’ve been beyond blessed to have him by my side. He decided to live with us shortly after we met and willingly developed a relationship with my dad and my whole family. He spent every single day -while both of us being in school, working, and studying for exams – with my family and me. He spent every day watching my family spend as much time with my dad as possible and did so himself. He’s seen me at my worse yet he loves me the best. My dad’s last wish was for him to see me engaged and a week before his death, Sunit made his wish come true and proposed to me in front of my dad in the hospital. I can’t describe the bittersweet emotions I felt while letting go of my dad’s hand at that moment. While watching the raw proposal video, I notice how my dad kept his hand up. I remember vividly my dad had told me shortly after, “this is my ending, but this is your beginning”.
How They Asked
December 22, 2018: When Sunit gave me my new beginning.
Sunit proposed to me again at Huntington Beach with our friends present and my dad in spirit by the ocean, where we poured his ashes. Each and every thought was so intricate. When I walked in, Sunit guided me towards a timeline of our lives on each side and where we crossed paths in the middle—the center picture of Sunit proposing to me in front of dad. He then took me to the balcony, where I felt the presence of my dad in the ocean, and all of my closest friends and family watching and waiting across the street. I knew Sunit was the one quite early on because we grew together and created something so beautiful in the midst of a disaster.
Three days ago, I lost my dad to stage 4 cancer. Today, I am calling on people to #sharerawmoments on social media. Growing up, I felt alone. As an only child, I thought I had gained the strength and ability to maneuver my way through life. When times got sad or rough, I believed strength meant concealing my vulnerability and keeping my composure. When my dad got diagnosed with cancer, many of my close family members and friends didn’t reach out to me because of how “happy” or how “okay” they saw or assumed I was on social media. My reality was different – inside I felt alone and broken. I don’t blame them; they hadn’t reached out because I hid my feelings through my posts. No one knew what was going on behind the scenes.I learned through this whole experience how important it is to share my raw moments so that it could inspire others to not feel alone and maybe encourage them to share their imperfect life with others to get the support they need. We assume and depict everyone’s lives off of social media, but the truth is we all have obstacles and struggles behind all those “happy” filters. We start to compare, we try to make people think we are doing well, but it’s okay if we aren’t. It’s okay to be transparent. The most important lesson I learned is to express how I honestly feel, to show every emotion, every raw moment, and every feeling because what once I believed was my weakness has now become my strength.I want to thank those who watched my raw moments on Instagram, opened up to me about their experiences, and inspired me to keep being true to myself.We are raising money for two charities close to our heart – City of Hope and American Cancer Society. Please donate and share if you can: https://bit.ly/2SjEZ3N#sharerawmomentsCity of Hope American Cancer Society RIP to my angel ❤️ Love always,-Sheena
Posted by Sheena Amin on Friday, October 26, 2018
They say everything happens for a reason and at the right time. Sunit made me believe it :)
2019, here we come :)