How We Met
TJ and I grew up in the same small town, only a few minutes down the road from each other. We went to all the same schools, but never dated until well after we both graduated. We like to say we did everything backward… put the horse before the cart so to speak. We found out we were pregnant with our son Alexander shortly into our relationship. We tried our best to navigate through our lives as a new couple, as well as becoming parents.
We were young, nervous, inexperienced, and for a time after our son was born, we decided to separate. I think we needed the time to realize what we really wanted, and honestly looking back I don’t know if I would change a thing. I think a big part of us always knew we were meant to be. So when we came back together it was as if nothing changed, or no time had passed. I think the best part about us is that we’re real. It’s not always pretty or cookie cutter, we’re far from perfect and I’m forever thankful for that because it’s us.
How They Asked
TJ proposed on February 17th, which happened to be the anniversary of my parents’ very first date. We had dinner reservations for 7pm and had planned to meet my parents as well as my brothers for a family dinner to celebrate their anniversary. TJ received a call from his younger brother before we left the house, saying we needed to stop by his parents’ house to feed their dogs. I’m sitting there thinking, really?! Now?! We’re definitely going to be late for our reservations. We got to his parents’ house and TJ and my son ran into the house.
He said it would only be a minute so I waited in the car to finish my makeup. He called me about a minute or two later and said I needed to come inside and help him, something about the dogs which now I can’t even remember. I quickly finished my makeup (which now I’m grateful for) threw on my other eyelash and ran inside. As soon as I opened the door I saw rose petals all over the ground in the entryway and immediately started crying. I knew he was up to something, in the way only we women just know, but was not thinking that today was the day.
I followed the petals down the hall and into the kitchen, passed the dining room and into the parlor. There standing amongst a sea of red rose petals and by the perfectly decorated mantle and fireplace were my two boys. Alexander was holding a sign that read “Will you marry daddy?” I don’t remember a whole lot of what TJ said to me, but as he got down on one knee, my son leaned into me and said: “Mommy say YES!” The moment was so incredibly special… he proposed in the room that we have created so many memories over the past 6 and a half years. From holidays, super bowl parties, birthdays, Sunday fun days, as well as it is his childhood home. I could not have dreamt up a more perfect and romantic proposal.
TJ had hired a photographer, who captured every single moment, which we will cherish forever. What I didn’t know at the time, was that both of our families were hiding out in his parents’ cabana waiting for the proposal. As soon as we were done, they all came in and we celebrated together. I came to find out later that our families had helped set everything up, even our niece helped sprinkle rose petals around the house. It made the moment even more special knowing both families played such a big part in it! Looking back on all of our years together and all of the many ups and downs we faced along the way, I can’t help but feel so blessed we got to this point. I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with this amazing man I FINALLY get to call my fiancé!