Your Proposal: Should you include family & friends?

By Sarah Pease, The Proposal Planner™

Proposing to your loved one is a huge step towards the future — a future filled with new experiences, new memories and new family. Asking parents for your partner’s hand in marriage is an old tradition, however, including their family in your proposal is a new idea that many people are embracing.

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The current trend of including family and friends into one’s marriage proposal is becoming more and more popular. Whether you choose to propose at a simple gathering of loved ones or you plan an extravagant proposal comprised of renting out a baseball stadium and hiding loved ones in the dugout à la Kanye West and Kim Kardashian, a marriage proposal that incorporates the most important people in your partner’s life is a thoughtful way to illustrate your commitment to them; However, sometimes keeping the big moment a secret can become a little tricky when you involve others.

Some people, especially family and close friends, may have a hard time keeping the news of your proposal to themselves. In general, the fewer amount of people you confide in, the less likely word is to get out. So, if you need to work with a family member to plan your proposal, choose your accomplice wisely. It’s important to work with a family member whose discretion you can rely on. Keep your trustworthy accomplice in the know so they can mobilize other family members without giving away your special plan. If you need more than one accomplice to help make your proposal a success, think about keeping them on a need to know basis. Maybe you start by telling them that you would like to plan something special for your partner, followed by feeding them more details as the big day approaches and finally, right before the special moment, reveal your true intention.

A unique way to involve family and friends without telling them your master proposal plan is by filming loved ones sending warm wishes and sharing stories about the two of you. Once you have an array of touching clips, compile them into a heartwarming movie that ends with you asking for your partner’s hand in marriage. This is a great way to involve loved ones and ensure the safety of your secret.

If you’d rather have family and friends present, arrange for the proposal to take place on an already special day — such as your partner’s birthday or your anniversary. While family and friends are under the impression that you are planning a surprise party, help them plan an unforgettable surprise, such as memorizing your partner’s favorite song or creating a crafty project.

If including loved ones in your marriage proposal is a must, don’t worry about the secret getting out, just be smart when choosing whom you work with and what you reveal about your plan.

Sarah Pease, The Proposal Planner ™ is the foremost expert on marriage proposals and is the pioneer of Marriage Proposal Planning. Sarah is the founder of Brilliant Event Planning and Proposal Ideas, and has designed and produced dream engagements for countless lucky couples from across the world.