How We Met
Jake and I met first in ~2010, as school kids. We just brushed shoulders with each-other at a paintball gathering with mutual friends. We then FIRST PROPERLY MET on 26 July 2015 at the office, during our first job, as colleagues (he was an electrical engineer, and I was a mechanical engineer). For the first few weeks we did not speak at all, just looked at each other while passing through the corridors or at the pantry. It was only when our colleague introduced us to each other during lunch, did we actually start speaking.
The conversations eventually grew week after week, and we found out we both were dating other people. We helped each other out in bettering our relationships, I gave him the woman’s point of view and he gave me the guys. As we started getting closer, we started going out for lunches and desserts (we both LOVEEE desserts)! A few months later, our office had organized a Desert Safari, and that’s when we grew closer! We were coincidentally put together at the back seat of a Land Cruiser and were stuck with each other for hours – from the company to the desert, then the dune bashing, followed by coming back to the office, then to our homes.
Jake and I spoke about everything under the stars, from horoscopes, music, mutual friends, ghosts, activities we like and dislike, career goals, relationships, everything! After the desert safari, I could not stop thinking about the conversations we had in general, how responsive he was when I speak, how we could not stop talking for hours, and how a guy like this even exists! I FELT I started developing a TINY crush on him but brushed it off immediately. A few months later, we both left the company and we lost touch (I guess this goes back to the quote, “Right Person, Wrong Time”). We got new jobs and tried keeping in touch. We just met once but tried texting every now and then (he would actually make the move ;-)). After almost a year, we broke up with our respective partners, and came to know about the same when we caught up months later!
FFWD to 31 March 2017, we planned to meet at a lounge, when I saw him I couldn’t help but give him the TIGHTEST HUG! I’m not the type of person, in general, to do this (he knows it too), so for me this was huge!! We hung out for a few hours that night, and from that day we only grew closer, VERY QUICKLY! We went for our first candle-lit date-night to the Burj Khalifa mid-April, and I was waiting for him to make a move (he didn’t), we went for sushi the next day (still didn’t make a move), and then went for breakfast (still made no move). The flirting grew, all types of kiss emojis grew too, my crush on him grew, and so did my impatience. Whoever knows me knows I’m not a very patient, so I told him WE NEEDED TO TALK. We eventually did on April 19, 2017, and that’s when we first started dating.
How They Asked
From the first day of our relationship, I knew I wanted to marry this guy, so did he. Yes, it’s hard to believe, but I told my parents within a week, my sister knew too, so did my closest friends. I LOVED THIS GUY! That being said, I knew he was eventually going to ask me to marry him (of course I didn’t know when).
Roughly around December 2019, I started noticing him being anxiously in general. He started hiding his phone more often (I’m quite nosey, so I notice everything), and I felt my mom and him, started getting closer. I knew something was cooking, I did suspect, but I brushed it off, as that season was one of the busiest work-seasons for me! I didn’t want to overthink the moment and was just excited whenever it did end up happening.
A week before my proposal, I got invited by the Jumeirah Group for a Winter Menu tasting at Summersalt. They had given me a heads-up there will be cameras and media there too. Nothing felt weird to me as I’m used to such events and tastings with my line of work. It was a tasting I definitely wanted to attend with Jake as there was sheesha, it was at the beach, the weather was perfect, and I LOVED the location!
However, January was a super tense month, so I wanted to skip it, thus, I ignored the email. When Jake came over, he noticed I read and ignored the email too. He made someone else convince me to come for the event. After a lot of convincing with that guy, I told Jake about it, and he said “babe, if you want to, we can go. It’s up to you”. I was super confused but eventually, after a lot of back and forth, I was like okay coooollll, let’s goooo!
We reached the location, and I saw a candle-lit pathway taking me to our journey, in huge pictures printed of us, and our memories together. I looked at him and was like ………….. he held my hand and was like, “you know what’s happening right?”. I BECAME NUMB!!! I didn’t know whether to cry or smile!
We started walking across every picture, AS I WAS SHIVERING, and he started describing and telling me more about every picture. We eventually reached a hemispherical stage type of floral setup, where he told me how much he loved me, how he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, and spoke about how we’ve been through so many obstacles in our life.
At that very moment, I felt and saw 4.5 years of our moments right in front of my eyes. I thought about the desert safari, the time I hugged him so tight at the lounge, our date nights, our fights, our love, the memories we made, how we met each-others families, everything, every single thing. Till this point, I was just tearing up, as I was still in shock with what was happening.
He went down on one knee and said “Naomi D’Souza, Will You Marry Me?”, I kept staring at him and that BEAUTIFUL ring in that box, and was speechless!! He was like, babe you’re supposed to say something now… I was like YES YES YESSSS!!!!! After he put the ring on my finger, and I hugged him, I don’t think I could stop crying for the new few hours. I cried that day, the next day, the day after that, the week after that, and still cry whenever I see the proposal video!
My proposal was the best day of my life, I cannot wait to get married to Jake <3