How We Met
James and I met at Eckerd College during our sophomore year. We lived in the same dorm, and he was living upstairs. I was actually dating a friend of his (who also lived upstairs) so that’s how we officially met. Things didn’t work out between his friend and me; but, since they just lived upstairs, our friend groups kind of collided and we’re all still friends to this day.
James and I didn’t actually start dating until one year after graduating even though we both had feelings for each other in college. We were afraid the other person didn’t reciprocate those feelings. When we started dating, James was living in Boston and I was in a small Florida town, but we made the decision that we were really doing this and made a point to talk every night on the phone (or video chat) and visit each other once a month.
how they asked
While we were visiting my family for Christmas, James asked for my parents’ permission and at some point, my mom gave him her first wedding ring (my dad gave my mom a new ring for one of their anniversaries).
James really wanted to get away for his spring break, so we decided taking a cruise would be fun! Little did I know that as soon as we booked the cruise, James started planning this proposal. The cruise would take us to the Bahamas, St. Thomas and St. Maarten. Like all cruises, you could book excursions while you were visiting these places. James and I did a lot of research of which ones to partake in to really get the most out of our cruise experience. One of the options for St. Thomas was to take a ferry boat out to the island of St. John and visit Trunk Bay Beach, which is ranked as one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. James really pushed for this to be our excursion and I didn’t have any qualms about it.
Fast forward to that day. In our cabin before leaving, James told me he wanted to update his profile picture with one of us on this beach, so we both made the effort to look as nice as possible as one can in bathing suits. We took the ferry boat ride out and then a bus took us to Trunk Bay Beach. If you ever get the chance to go, I highly recommend it! The beach is more gorgeous than photos can show. It is a protected beach, so you’re not allowed to take anything you might find home with you.
As I said before, as soon as we booked the cruise, James started planning this proposal. He went onto google maps and found this beach and saw there was a rock formation and beyond these rocks was another small beach, which was more private. When we got to the beach, that’s where we headed. No one was walking that direction, so he was saying it would be a good place to lay our stuff down. He also wanted to explore behind the rocks. Now, to get to this private beach, you had to walk through some water. Anyone that knows me knows that I’m not a fan of going into the ocean because of the critters (yes, I know, then why plan a cruise? I still like being on a beach, just not going in the water). So James said he would go ahead and check to make sure it’s safe. I didn’t question him and around the rocks, he went with our GoPro in hand. I’m not sure how much time passed, but it could’ve only been a few minutes. I wasn’t sure what he was doing, but then I saw him come around the corner.
“You’ve got to check this out! I think I found something.” He said.
I asked if it was safe and he took my hand and said he would help me get around, which he did. When we get around the rocks, I see a bottle in the sand.
“There’s a note inside.” He said.
So I picked up the bottle and took the note out and began reading the sweetest letter from him. When I finished reading, I put the letter down and James was on one knee with a ring box in hand. He asked me to marry him and I obviously said yes. He used my mom’s diamond and added to it. The way he asked is so special and the fact he used my mom’s diamond made me so happy.
Later he revealed how he was planning all this for the last several months and the bottle he used is an actual antique bottle from an old whiskey factory in Philadelphia (where we currently live). I’m not an easy person to hide things from, but he hid the bottle and ring from me for months in our apartment and I had NO idea!