How We Met
Dating a single mom can be tough. From balancing around your own work schedules to balancing around two other tiny humans schedules of school and activities of cheer, ballet, and Girl Scouts, it is often hard to squeeze in a date. Like most busy moms, dating hadn’t really been a top priority. I had finished up my Bachelor’s degree and threw myself into the working world before I had even thought of dating someone officially, and making time to actually go out and meet someone, right, that was going to be really successful with all the spare time I had on my hands, so I turned online. I ran across Jonathan, who only lived a town over from me, and knew immediately there was something different about him just from a few messages.
I was hesitant to tell him about my kids, but finally bit the bullet and told him a few days into chatting and throwing the “They will always come first” comment immediately into the mix. A few weeks of lots of text exchanges, late-night phone calls, and FaceTimes, we decided to meet face-to-face. It could not have been more perfect. The connection was instant, and we realized just how much we had in common with each other. The few hours we spent together that day made me want more and made me want to know more about him. We immediately planned a date for the next day, as crazy as it sounds.
The next day was just as perfect as the first. After a couple of months of solo dates, I figured it was time to introduce the biggest part of my life to Jonathan, Kenna and Kenzley, but as fate would have it, they met him accidentally. My aunt, who had picked the girls up from school, had planned to bring them home to meet me after I had dinner with Jonathan. Thinking we had a few more hours, we had planned to spend more time together. Surprise, Kenna and Kenzley show up early with my aunt. After a sea of, “Who is he, Mommy?”, Jonathan had officially met the twincesses, and his life was forever changed.
how they asked
Being a single mom to twin, five-year-old daughters, at the time, now six-year-old, Kenna and Kenzley, meant that I had to make sacrifices and had to put dating on hold to be able to be fully committed to them. Dating really hadn’t ever been a big deal to me while I was in college, but I had held on to hope that one day someone would come along and sweep me off my feet. I had finished up my Bachelor’s degree and secured a job while raising them and thought that dating wasn’t part of my plan at the moment until Jonathan came along.
We went on our first date, and the connection was instant. There was no awkward “first date tension” just a good time with lots of laughs and smiles. A few months later, I felt it was time for Jonathan to meet Kenna and Kenzley. Their connection was great from the start. He was a natural – so patient and understanding of them. It made me fall even deeper in love with him when I watched the three of them together. Fast forward to Christmas Eve 2017, the four of us had read “Twas the Night Before Christmas” and everyone was getting tucked in and ready for the long-awaited visit from Santa. Jonathan told me to go downstairs and plan to be getting all the toys up the steps.
Little did I know, he was asking Kenna and Kenzley if he could marry their Mommy. I finished getting the toys and came upstairs to bed to be prompted to the bathroom to wash my face. After a little pouting and wondering why my face being exfoliated after such a long, tiring day was so important, I obliged and went to the bathroom next to my bedroom. I rounded the corner, with a fresh face, and came upon Jonathan on one knee with a ring in his hand. He said, “Kaylan Jewel Brickey, I loved you the moment I met you. Will you marry me?” With tears in my eyes, I said, “Yes!” afraid of waking up the whole house with my excitement. The next morning, my family and close friends had known Jonathan’s plans of proposing to me, and we all were so excited to let the wedding planning commence. #BrickeytoBales #WeddingBales