How We Met
Jacob and I met through mutual friends towards the end of my freshman year of college. We spent the evening talking and laughing, so when he asked for my number at the end of the night, I had to say yes! The next few weeks passed in a flurry of hours of texting and one night he called me and we talked for several hours, about any and everything. It quickly became apparent that we really liked each other. About a month later, I took the plunge and told him I had a crush. However, we were both in very different places, and needed to do some individual growing before pursuing a relationship. (Although he would tell you he knew he was going to marry me). The next seven months we spent building a deep friendship, he became my best friend, and finally, after waiting seven months for me, I made a joke about how we never dated. He tested the waters a bit, knowing it had to be me who made that first move. His interest in me was vocal, but he knew *I* needed to be ready to take this next step. He was getting ready to leave for a year stationed overseas, so when I made a joke about us never dating, he told me, “Well, unless you want to deal with me being gone…”, I told him that I never said I didn’t want to and we should talk, except no conversation ever happened after that! He knew from that statement that I was ready to jump off this cliff with him, and we haven’t looked back since.
how they asked
On May 20th, 2017, Jacob woke me up with a cup of coffee and told me that we were going to start our day with a small devotion downstairs. He brought me down to the family room in my family’s home, where he had candles lit, and twinkly lights on the mantle of the fireplace.
He opened up to first Corinthians, which we had studied together when he was stationed overseas last year, and we began to go over the “love passage”, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8.
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.”
This is a scripture passage which has been very important for us as a couple. We have revisited it time and again throughout arguments as a reminder of how we are called to love each other and have purposed to center or relationship on it. Jacob told me that when he and my dad had started talking about engagement, he was surprised he brought up Proverbs 31 and not this passage because even though he knows that I am all those things in Proverbs 31, when he thinks of me, he thinks of this passage, 1st Corinthians 13 (this is where I started to cry).
Jacob asked me if I thought this passage would still be a cornerstone to us in marriage, something we had long been talking and praying about. When I answered yes, he began to pull out his grandmother’s ring which he had tied to the ribbon bookmark of his bible. He fumbled untying it,making me laugh, “This was supposed to go smoothly!” and then got down on one knee in front of me and told me that he has known since day one that I was his wife, and that he’s always seen me as his wife but, that I am also his best friend and adventure buddy. He told me (paraphrasing my favorite quote, and something we say to each other often) there will always be new cliffs in life to jump off and there’s no one else he wanted to jump off them with.
With tears streaming down my face, as Jacob said the words I’d been praying to hear since the day we started dating, I nodded my head as fast as I could and promised forever to my very best friend.