Jessie and David
How We Met
Dave and I have been dating for four and a half years. We met in a transition stage of our lives, when we were trying to figure out our career paths.
He was taking courses at Dalhousie University while waiting to hear back from Law school, and I was studying Pharmacy at Dalhousie University while waiting to hear back from Med school. We met at a local campus bar. I felt so comfortable with him from the get-go, and we were our unfiltered selves right away.
I remember Dave asking me on our first date if I ate dogs (I’m Korean), and me asking Dave if he was gay (he had jokingly batted his eyelashes at me several times during the night). I loved Dave’s sense of humour and wit, and his ability to go to a bar alone and make 3 new friends at the end of the night.
how they asked
Dave proposed at his family’s cottage: our favourite places to unwind and spend our weekends.
I was completely blown away by the proposal as it was very, very unexpected. Although we have been dating for awhile, we were both just starting out on our careers (with a lot of student debt!) and I wasn’t expecting an engagement ring any time soon.
Dave had just started work at a new firm and he was working a lot of late nights, but it turned out he was driving up to the cottage and building and planning the proposal for the past two months.
I was completely oblivious to Dave’s plans when he picked me up to go to the cottage on a Friday evening, just like many other weekends we’ve had. I had a very long day and was looking for a relaxing night: having a fire on the beach and roasting marshmallows.
Dave got me to set up my camera and tripod on the beach for a long exposure shot of the stars (even though I argued that it was a full moon and it wouldn’t be a good shot. I had no idea it was for the proposal!)
The sun set quickly, and Dave had arranged candles in mason jars along the beach.
It was just like any other evening at the cottage, although I noticed Dave was on his phone more than usual- he said our mutual friend was on a Tinder date and was filling him in.
I didn’t think anything of it. As we sat by the fire, I remember Dave holding my hand, and then him telling me to look up… and a huge light display with “Marry Me?” shone across the lake.
He then got down on one knee and pulled out the ring.
I don’t even remember saying yes- only “oh my GOD, oh my GOD, oh my GOD, oh my GOD”. I don’t even remember him putting the ring on my finger. I could hear the other cottages on the lake cheering and girls screaming, “say yes!! Say yes!!”.
I was so blown away by the display across the lake. Dave had gotten two of our mutual friends (Emily and Lesley, who he was texting to get the timing right) to turn on the generator on the island at the perfect time so the lights would go on.
It was incredible. Dave had put so much work into it: he doesn’t have a motorboat so he canoed the 250lb generator, the huge wooden signs he built himself, and all the supplies in many trips back and forth on the lake. Despite all the work (and doubts by others- his Mom didn’t think he would be able to pull it off!), he said he wanted to do this because he knew every time we are at the cottage looking out at the lake, I would be reminded of the proposal and how much I am loved.
Despite all the work (and doubts by others- his Mom didn’t think he would be able to pull it off!), he said he wanted to do this because he knew every time we are at the cottage looking out at the lake, I would be reminded of the proposal and how much I am loved.