How They Asked
Hi! So after he proposed to me on stage at the Miss Colorado for America pageant on my 39th birthday/39 month sobriety birthday…a few days later I asked back. I was supposed to go first but he surprised me because he couldn’t let the important date go by.
So I had my son take him out to go shopping. When they arrived at my dance studio, I was in the waiting room with a candlelit dinner set up. I spelled out “will you marry me” in votive candles across the bench and had little items to signify all the things that we will go through together. Holidays, picnics, inside jokes, etc. Then I turned on the TV and I have made a movie trailer parody for “Crazy Rich Asians”, called “Crazy Hot Asian”. The joke was that we were about to get married and he had never told me he was hot. The parts were played by all of the people close to us from my kids to his grandmother. (Stage 1)
After the movie trailer, we went into the dance studio. The room was full of our friends and family. Along the back wall were my dancers, my kids and my mom lined up holding letters spelling out “Kwan, will u marry us 2?” (each of them decorated their letter themselves). Instead of yelling surprise, everyone yelled: “say yes!”. (Stage 2)
I then took him over to the seating in front of the mirror at the front of the room and that was everyone’s cue to take their places for the flash mob. The song “Foolish” by Meghan Trainor came on and I started singing along and dancing. Throughout the three-minute flash mob, dancers kept adding to the routine until the entire floor was full of my students, fitness clients and friends (including my childhood dance instructors). At the end of the song, we all ended up on one knee, with me right in front of him. At that point, my oldest child sent me over Kwan’s engagement ring (A replica of his high school class ring that had been stolen years before) on a red balloon (he wrote a children’s story called the Red Balloon that helps kids deal with adoption from Asian countries). I made my speech about how much I loved him and how although he started alone in this world, now there were two of us. At that point, my youngest child sent me over a second ring for me that matched his. (Stage 3).
Details: The adults at the party were wearing T-shirts with photographs of Kwan and I together printed on the front. All of the kids wore T-shirts that said: “say yes to Miss Jess “. The ceiling and walls were covered in Christmas lights, making the whole room glow. Throughout the whole studio were 214 balloons, one for every day we were together. Floating balloons across the ceiling and a few dozen across the floor. The mirror was covered in posters with important dates from our relationship, excerpts from love letters he’s written to me, and signatures and messages from everybody in attendance.
He is the light in the dark the leads me, fills me and brightens every part of my life. My soul recognized in him the other half of what makes me, me. His proposal to me was so perfectly tailored to me and so significant in the ways that matter. My proposal to him was the full stage show that utilized everything I have to offer because I offer him everything that I am. Thank you for asking about this.