How We Met
Trudy and I met 4 1/2 years ago when she casually walked into my life. At the time I had about 10 years working for the city of NY fire department (FDNY) as a paramedic. She had just finished the academy and was assigned to station 43 in Brooklyn, NY where I resided. I remember the first time I saw her as though it was yesterday. I had caught a glimpse of her through a door window. She was in uniform. She had a huge backpack (that was clearly too big for her) and the back of her head was shaved. She also had an Ohm tattooed on the back of her neck.
It started out during jobs and in passing, we would have light conversations. We slowly discovered we had a lot in common. We discussed her ohm, Buddhism, and meditation. I recall her encouraging me to download the most annoying app ever to encourage me to meditate more often. We discovered we both enjoyed running and agreed to be each others running buddy. We literally ran everywhere. We did runs all over NYC, Boston and even took trips to Florida to do Disney runs. This was the beginning of our friendship. We instantly became inseparable and best friends.
At the time she was involved in a relationship and I was married to a man. Needless to say, her relationship deteriorated and so did mine. During this time our bond grew stronger.
One day we looked at each other and thought maybe there was something more between us than just friendship. With our first kiss, I saw sparks fly and I swore the earth shook. It’s a connection I’ve never felt before. Whenever our eyes meet even from across the room she sends this unexplainable shiver all over my body. Its as though she has a direct line to my soul. She understood me. Next thing I knew I couldn’t picture myself without her in my life. Now here we are a year and a half later.
How They Asked
It was June 24th. We had plans to March in the NYC Pride Parade with the FDNY. We had found out that the FDNY has an LGBTQ+ following and we wanted to be a part of it.
It was an extremely hot day but we were ready to head out and get the crowd going. At the beginning of the march, we were offered bottles of water. I grabbed one and put it in my inside jacket pocket. I offered one to Trudy and she quickly said no. Now I understand why. It would obviously get in the way of the ring.
We began walking down 7th Ave, cheering, dancing and waving our flags. At one point I noticed Trudy no longer had her flag. When I questioned her about it she said: “oh…umm…someone wanted it so I gave it away”. I thought her response was strange but continued to march. She, on the other hand, thought I had asked her what was in her hand which was why her response to me was so odd. She apparently had asked someone to hold her flag while she got ready to pop the question.
By now we had reached the corner of 7th Ave and Christopher Street (the corner of the infamous Stonewall Inn). The march had started to turn onto Christopher Street and they brought us to a stop while the float in front of us made its turn. Then suddenly she was in front of me. I watched her confused. She looked at me nervously and then she dropped to one knee. I stared at her in disbelief. I thought she was joking.
Let me quickly explain why I thought this. In May, we were invited to a Second Chance Ceremony for Ken Taskent. A gentleman who had gone into cardiac arrest and we saved along with other members of the FDNY. It was a chance to meet Ken, his wife and celebrate LIFE. During this ceremony and after taking tons of photos, Trudy had dropped down to one knee and quickly popped back up, laughing saying “Haha I’m just kidding!”. In her own words, she said she had to “test the waters”. With this being said it’s why I thought she was joking during the parade. The difference is this time she wasn’t playing nor popping back up.
Sudden everything went quiet and I froze. I felt as though I zoomed into her and we were the only ones there. I read her lips and out came a little black box. I knew at the moment that this was real. I ran over to her and kissed her hard. I didn’t even give her a chance to stand up. I was so happy and emotional. Just then I heard a roar of people screaming and yelling “She said yes! She said yes!!!”. I realized we were in the middle of a parade surrounded by millions of people. I was crying, my hands were trembling and in a blink of an eye, I was the luckiest girl in the world.