How We Met
Our story began in the Spring of 2017 when we were both elite competitive powerlifters. Claudia was still in school finishing up her Senior Year at Fordham University and I was working and living in New York City. We both found ourselves at a small, team-oriented gym in Long Island, and as soon as we met, I knew Claudia was something special. She was beautiful and had a smile that could melt you for days.
It was a year and a half later that we finally became closer. Just a few weeks later, I made it official with the traditional, “Will you be my girlfriend” line. It worked!
How They Asked
My fiancee and I decided to do something a little different for our engagement — we both engaged with each other. Two brides, two proposals!!
Claudia had always dreamt of proposing to the woman she would eventually marry, and I wasn’t going to be the one to change that; however, I knew I wanted to make this milestone incredibly special for her. I was, too, going to get down on one knee.
See, we aren’t a typical couple who fits perfectly into gender norms or even same-sex couple norms. We’re fluid in the sense that we truly are both feminine and masculine in different ways, and contribute to our relationship equally. The idea of two proposals seemed so fitting to us.
Sometimes, I wonder why the two proposals aren’t seen more often! I wonder why society has been so stuck in fulfilling an out-dated ‘tradition’ with one proposal done a certain way. We’ve been forced to squeeze ourselves into boxes of expectations and stereotypes, all the while, all of us are overflowing with individuality. I can’t help but think we need to let that individuality free.
A proposal is a way of professing love beyond the daily “I love you.” It’s a special moment filled with laughter and tears that you’ll both remember for a lifetime. A moment that expands beyond the love for that person today, or even tomorrow; a proposal means forever.
And for those reasons, just one word isn’t enough. ‘Yes’ just didn’t cut it.
Claudia proposed first, getting down on one knee in the middle of a beautiful lavender field in Long Island, New York. Claudia and I had been talking about going to this lavender field for years but we kept “missing the blooms” every summer. During Claudia’s proposal, she let me in on a little secret. She said, “We haven’t been missing the blooms by accident. I knew that the first time I took you here, I was going to propose to you. Will you marry me?” YES! YES! YES!
A week later, Claudia’s two best friends were visiting from out of state. I was ‘out at breakfast with a friend’ and planned to meet up with the girls at a fancy brunch later on. Before brunch, the plan was for them to walk to Domino Park, a beautiful water-front park close to our apartment in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. When they arrived, I was down by the water surrounded by beautiful candles and calla lilies (her favorite!). After crying through my words, unveiling her new the Rolex watch, and asking her to “be my wife,” we celebrated knowing we we were both equally committed, and irrevocably in love.