How We Met
Nikki and I met in the middle of the ocean. Quite literally, actually. Jillian Michaels, America’s toughest trainer, held a fitness and wellness cruise in 2010. Being a fan of Jillian and someone into spending time on a boat to learn about fitness and wellness, I attended this cruise along with 1700 other people [sidebar: I’m a fan of traveling alone, I suggest everyone try it once in their life!]. To get everyone riled up for the next few days of learning and sweating, Jillian and her crew held “Deck Wars” as we left Miami — pretty much a fun competition of the strongest men/women on the boat. In the end of the strong woman squat-off, there was a girl who held a sumo squat for about five minutes with Jillian yelling in her ear. She had some pretty cool threads. Her sneakers were awesome. She had a presence on the stage. She was just bad ass! From that point on, that girl, Nikki, became the person to meet on that ship.
It was the next night, 80’s night, where our lives would change. I was eating alone in the cafeteria, dressed in a ridiculous 80s outfit, and someone with a big rocker wig and a mid-riff shirt came up to me. She asked if I wanted to sit with her, her mom and her friend. It was Nikki — she asked me to join her so I didn’t have to sit alone and I gladly joined. We absolutely connected over food and fitness, and after the cruise we went back to our lives in Chicago and in Utah. Through the next months, we kept in touch. Eventually, she made her way to Chicago and it went from there.
How They Asked
Once we started dating, I knew that this was the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with. We’ve been together for just about six years, and I’ve been planning this surprise proposal for a long time. With the global traveling that Nikki does as an international trainer, we’ve been incredibly fortunate to make amazing friendships around the world. I wanted these people, along with our friends and family, to be a part of the proposal. The concept was simple: before I gave Nikki the ring, I wanted to pass it along to the very people who love and support us every single day. And they would pass it on to one another, until it came back to me.
While she was on a work trip to New Zealand, I began executing my plan: I created an instructional YouTube video to explain how they should send in their video clips in January, sent out emails with deadlines, and began compiling the video as the clips came in. I setup a meeting with her boss at work to stage a fake work dinner at the venue, so she knew she had to show up. The venue was close to my office so I could go during my lunch hours to hammer out details and logistics. I worked with a jeweler in Chicago to pick the perfect stone and setting — without knowing exactly what her ring size is, we made sure it was just big enough to go past the knuckle :) I hired my colleague to capture every surprise moment [she and her husband also run a wedding photography business]. I flew in her parents from Utah to be in on the surprise. Every detail was worked through the time she was away.
We got to dinner with her work colleagues that evening. The venue greeted us at the door with wine, and sat us down at our table. City Winery often offers tours of the winery (it’s the only winery in the city of Chicago), so we grabbed our drinks and went on the tour. First stop was their wine and barreling room, next stop: the upstairs private event space where everyone was waiting. As we walked up the stairs, I distinctly recall thinking that I should have put on more deodorant ha ha! As we turned the corner and saw the crowd, Nikki didn’t immediately register it was a crowd she knew.
She thought, “Oh, there’s a party up here, we should probably go”. And then she saw her father. Once she saw him, waterworks started. Then she started to recognize more people: her mom, my mom, my brother, our closest and most dearest friends. As we worked through the crowd and I grabbed her hand and said, “It’s OK, I want to show you something.”
I pressed play on the video that I worked on for months and together with our friends and family, we watched as I handed the ring off to one side of the screen, and it was passed around the world, from one person to the next, screen to screen.
When it got back to me at the end, I turned to her and said, “There are a million things I wanted to say at this very moment, but I can’t remember any of it, and I’m not even sure what words are coming out of my mouth. But all I know is that I love you, Nikki. Always have, always will. And it would be amazing to spend the rest of my life with you.”
I pulled the ring box out of my pocket, got down on one knee and looked up at the love of my life as I said “Nicole Ann Snow, will you marry me?”. Through the happiest of tears, she said “YES!” and I couldn’t get up fast enough to pull her in my arms and hug my future wife. Our friends and family shouted in joy as I slid the ring on her finger.
We spent the rest of the night celebrating our love, surrounded by the people who mean the most to us. It was absolutely a magical night. I pulled of the surprise of our lives and it couldn’t have been more perfect!