How She Asked: Kayla and Cassie

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We met at a Mexican restaurant in Austin. She was sitting with a friend of mine from college and I ended up talking to her for the rest of the night. She was nervous around me, mostly because I was super gay and she wasn’t…yet. We had an instant connection but it took 5 weeks of friendship before she finally admitted to having feelings for me. She had never been in a gay relationship before. She was the head cheerleader date the football player kind of girl. She never in a million years thought she would end up with a woman.

Over the next 6 years I would chase her pretty much across the country. She moved to 4 different cities for work and wouldn’t move back to Austin because there wasn’t enough “fashion”. We did long distance for years. I finally convinced her to move back to Texas, we agreed on Dallas, where I started my own apartment locating company. For years she struggled with being gay. It wasn’t something anyone expected, including her, and her friends and family weren’t very accepting at first. Her mother pretty much refused to acknowledge that I even existed for the first 3.5 years of our relationship. I would have to leave our apartment when during Christmas, and Kayla would have to take down all our photos from the fridge and hide my clothes.

It wasn’t until my own mother passed away in 2013 that things changed. Kayla’s mom sent flowers to the funeral and texted me- something she had never done. After that, our relationship changed and Kayla’s mom wanted to be in our lives. Now she calls me more than she calls Kayla! We are closer than ever and it’s amazing. I asked her for her blessing to propose to Kayla and she couldn’t be more excited to plan a wedding. I am so thankful we were able to move past our jagged history because many families are not able to. I proposed to Kayla in St. Thomas in the ocean. I told her she better put the ring on her finger before I drop it! Finally after 6 years of dating, I get to marry the girl of my dreams.

Image 2 of Kayla and Cassie