How to Ask Someone to Marry You: A Customizable Script

How to ask someone to marry you
A customizable sample script for pure proposal perfection

With a hefty amount of pressure placed on proposals and nerves running at an all-time high, getting tongue-tied when you pop the question is a real possibility. So, how, exactly, do you keep your cool when it’s time to drop to a knee? We recommend having a thoughtful script rehearsed and prepared—rather than attempting to “just wing it” (which sounds romantic, but often results in stuttered speech and awkward silence).

To help you find the right words for that magic moment, then, we’re sharing a Mad Libs-style script you can easily customize to suit your love story. Read on for our sample proposal and the template that follows—and get ready for pure proposal perfection.


Noel and Kira’s Full Story

Sample Proposal Script

From the moment… I met you at the show that night, I knew you were different.

It was something about the way you… laughed louder than everyone around, danced without inhibition, and—yes—wore that long green sundress that’s since become my favorite to absolute perfection.

Getting to know you more wasn’t a choice—it was an absolute need…which is probably why… I made a point to undoubtedly embarrass myself as I tried to impress you with my out-of-date dance moves.

Since that time, we’ve shared:

  • 4 trips to see my crazy cousins
  • Countless fireside date nights
  • A few heated arguments over how to load the dishwasher
  • At least 20 plates of those goat cheese balls you love
  • 16 incredible concerts at Brooklyn Bowl
  • 635 sunsets
  • And the joy of adopting one crazy puppy together

 

And throughout it all, I’ve felt like the luckiest person on the planet.

Whether I’m:

  • Groggy and annoyed as you’re waking me up at 5am to go on a morning run
  • Curious and excited to listen as you text me your favorite new Spotify playlist
  • Cozy and warm as we’re curling up on the couch together with our pup (probably to watch an episode of The Office we’ve already seen 40 times over)
  • Or frustrated as ever as we argue about something insanely ridiculous

…there’s one unwavering emotion that runs underneath it all—and that’s pure, unequivocal, undeniable love.

So today, I’m on my knee asking for a lifetime of that curiosity, excitement, frustration, annoyance, humor, and—most importantly—love.

I know it won’t always be easyespecially if you keep waking me up at 5am for those morning runsbut I also know there’s no one else in the world I’d rather call my partner for this life and beyond.

Jenny Marie Bryan, will you marry me?

Template To Customize Sample Proposal Script:

From the moment [where you met or a special moment in your relationship + what you knew about your partner in that moment.] *Note—if you knew each other as friends before you started dating and/or didn’t necessarily feel “love at first sight”, this doesn’t have to be the moment you met; make this about the moment you realized you wanted to be with your partner and what you felt in that moment.

It was something about the way you [2-3 things that made your partner so special in that moment]

Getting to know you on a deeper level wasn’t a choice—it was an absolute need…which is probably why I [something funny/sweet you did to make a move or get your partner’s attention: “stuttered over my words all night,” “told you I didn’t have to work in the morning when I did,” “ran after your best friend to ask if you were single,” etc.]

Since that time, we’ve shared: [List out a handful of memories here—the more specific, the better!]:

  • I.e. how many trips you’ve taken
  • I.e. how many favorite meals or bottles of wine you’ve shared (name a specific dish or specific type of wine to make this personal and endearing)
  • I.e. a funny line about an argument you constantly have
  • I.e. how many days (“sunsets” or “sunrises”) you’ve been together
  • End with one “big” memory (a child you’ve had, a pet you’ve adopted, a house you’ve bought, a vacation you’ve taken, etc.)

And throughout it all, I’ve felt like the luckiest person on the planet.

Whether I’m: [List out 3-5 “regular occurrences” for you as a couple and the emotions that go along with each. Include arguments for authenticity, annoyances for humor, and loving moments to make this endearing.]

…there’s one unwavering emotion that runs underneath it all—and that’s pure, unequivocal, undeniable love.

So today, I’m on my knee asking for a lifetime of that [list 3-5 emotions that tie back to that list of “regular occurrences” you just gave] and—most importantly—love.

I know it won’t always be easy—[option to add a humorous line here about a recurring annoyance or argument you have]—but I also know there’s no one else in the world I’d rather call my partner for this life [option to add “and beyond” if you and your partner believe in an afterlife].

[Partner’s full name], will you marry me?

Madison and Drew’s Full Story


You’ve got the script—now you just need a plan. Check out our top tips for planning the perfect proposal here.