how we met
Our love story began long before we knew each other. We both come from ministry families. Both of our dads are full-time pastors. Our mothers are amazing prayer warriors who prayed our whole lives for us to grow up to happily marry the “one”. We were both told growing up that God would lead us to the special person we were supposed to spend our life with. Danae was instructed as a very young girl to make a list of the qualities and attributes she wanted her future husband to have. That way when she met him, she would know he was sent from God. Josh heard a near-audible voice while praying in a time of desperation almost 6 years ago that “when you meet the one you’ll spend your life with, you’ll know why it took so long to meet her”. Danae agrees that 6 years ago, her 17 year old self was not ready for a committed relationship. The Holy Spirit clearly helped us through countless situations on the road toward each other.We both stopped attending our respective families’ churches at about the same time. We felt that in order to grow spiritually, we had to attend other churches – to the disappointment but understanding of our pastors (our fathers). We were both supernaturally led to Siler City First Wesleayan Church (FWC) over the course of a few months.
Our actions made very little sense at the time, but “…we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28 NIV).We officially met for the first time at a Wednesday night youth service at FWC when I(Josh) dropped off my nephew Elijah. We exchanged a few words and that was that. Two months later in April 2018, I felt I was called to commit to regularly attend FWC where Danae was already part of the worship team. From the first Sunday I saw her lead music, I knew she was anointed by God to sing. There was something very special and unique about her. Something I had never quite seen or felt before. I was extremely drawn to her.She seemed to have a direct heart connect to Jesus. Interestingly, my initial thought was not to pursue Danae romantically. I was dating someone else at the time. Furthermore, I honestly believed Danae was already in a full-time committed relationship (with Jesus). But I knew a connection between us had to be made. I got my chance to make that connection on Sunday, April 22 when Danae led morning worship by herself. The music director and his family were on a 2-week long vacation, leaving the music in Danae’s hands.
As I watched her play Amazing Grace on the piano, I knew I could not leave church that day without talking to her. I approached her in the vestibule as everyone was leaving church and offered to join her on stage the nextSunday. She gladly accepted. We played music together at choir practice that same night and we flowed like we had played together for years. Danae and I still didn’t talk to each other much that night other than discussing the setlist. I spent most of the practice talking to the pastor about Jonathan and Melissa Helser, with Danae eavesdropping from across the platform.A series of events in the next three weeks landed us in a situation where we were able to casually spend the afternoon of May 15 th alone together. We consider that day now to be our first date, but at the time both of us thought we were probably just a couple of single Christian musicians hanging out.From the beginning, we were very open about what we wanted out of life. We want to pursue God and demonstrate Him to the world.
We both value marriage highly and consider it an unbreakable covenant. We want four kids. Danae made it very clear that she was completely ok with the difference in our ages (6 ½ years). Conversations like these put us on the fast track from “friends” to something much, much deeper. We were both just a little afraid to pursue the next step because of relationship hurts from the past.But just like He does, God was healing those hurts.Luckily for us, we didn’t have to verbalize the next step in our relationship on our own.On June 23, a little girl at Vacation Bible School asked me very matter-of-factly if Danae was my girlfriend. I looked at Danae timidly and said something to the effect of “I think so”. Girlfriend or not at that point, we knew that we could not imagine life without each other. Almost everyone in our circle considered us to be dating long before we considered ourselves to be dating.
To the world, it might have seemed fast for us to be so committed to each other. The world gives men and women the idea that they should be self-serving and guarded in relationships. The world says “don’t get your hopes up.”But Romans 12:2 says: “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Danae and I both knew in our spirits that we were walking in the perfect will of God. We began discussing marrying each other long before our first kiss(take notes, young couples). Neither of us had a bit of apprehension over the idea of marrying each other. The question quickly became not “if” we would get married, but “when”.The summer and fall of 2018 was a season of growth for both of us. We served together in ministry through church in every capacity we could. We grew closer seemingly everyday. As any good relationship will do, our insecurities and hang-ups were brought to light. But we decided very early on that we were on the same team and working toward the same goal. With the Lord’s help we are continually counseled through the “seminary of life.
how they asked
We got engaged on December 9, 2018 with snow on the ground. The proposal took place in the youth room at the exact spot where we exchanged our first words. Candles, lights, and flower pedals everywhere. It was magical. It was a surprise, but I knew it was coming haha. I had kept our nephew that day and Josh told me he had to fix/check something at his house, but he left to set the proposal up. So the say led up with us playing with out two year old nephew in the snow followed by a romantic proposal. Then we rushed off to tell our family and friends. It was the best day.