How We Met
In January 2013 I decided to change careers and follow a passion I had for athleisure clothing and an active lifestyle. I became a lemon after I took a leap of faith and said yes to a temporary position at the first lululemon outlet store in Minnesota [Minny].
My life suddenly became clear and I was hooked on living this new lifestyle with goals, personal development, fitness, and style! I was introduced to goal planning and was asked to create my own one, five and ten goal plans with 3 goals under each category: personal, health and career. We were taught to dream big audacious goals! I wrote in my ten-year plan I wanted to have a personal chef. I wanted to have a successful first pregnancy in five years. And I wanted to meet the love of my life in a year. We would review our goals quarterly and talk about them daily and how we would achieve them. I put myself out there and went on dates trying to find this love of mine.
It wasn’t long before I was introduced to a dating app for your phone, it was called Tinder. I remember it was November 2013 and I told myself I’d give until the end of the year to try this dating style. I started swiping and it wasn’t long (middle of December) until I came across a picture of Pete, he was inside an industrial-sized kitchen wearing white and holding a dead fish. He was cute and his picture caught my eye. I continued to look at his photos and happened upon a picture of him in a hot tub with long-frozen eyelashes and frozen beard and ‘stache.
When I say they were long lashes, I am not exaggerating. He had icicles hanging from each eyelash and again the picture caught my eye. His proximity was about 20 minutes away and I was interested, I swiped right and instantly we matched. Obviously that means he was thinking the same and was interested in me, that’s why he swiped right too, right? I waited. He made the move and said hi first. I asked about the picture and he explained he was a sous chef at an upscale Italian restaurant. A chef!? Could it really be? We talked for about 3 weeks and finally set up our first date on January 31st, 2014.
We met for drinks and a movie and the date went incredibly well. We were instant friends and instant lovers fast. I knew he was my future husband and I knew he felt the same. BUT he dropped a bombshell on me during those first few weeks of talking. He was getting a divorce! Oh shit. That’s a lot of baggage and I wasn’t convinced it was going to work out. I was probably just a rebound, right? I would later learn that Pete would agree to support his ex-wife for almost an entire year because he wanted to make sure she was ok and set up for some success. His selflessness has never waivered. That generosity made me realize what a rare gem he was.
Anyways, during our first date, I remember thinking I had to know what his thoughts are on kids, so I asked. He wanted them and wanted them sooner rather than later. He later told me it was that boldness of asking him the wants that made him fall for me. We spent most of the next year getting to know each other and each other’s families and friends. We went on our first trip to Miami and survived the week together. I decided to use my boldness and told Peter I wanted to have kids by the time I was 30, which was two years away. And in order to have kids, I wanted to be married. Did he run? No. He said ok.
How They Asked
On October 7, 2015, Peter asked me to marry him. I knew something was up when a couple friends sent a text asking to meet for drinks at the local theater that night. I asked why they wanted to meet there, it was so random. And then it clicked. That’s where we had our first date! I called my parents and asked if they had any idea what was going on and they both made me sound crazy and said no, little did I know they were in on it too. I decided to go through with our plans and meet my friends at the theater bar. As I walked into the theater I saw our family, friends and Peter in the center, wearing a suit and tie. I immediately started crying. He got down on one knee and said “614 days ago it all began right here, will you marry me?” I said yes and the rest is history. We had a three month engagement and married on February 20, 2016. I turned 30 in April and was pregnant expecting our first daughter in May. My goals were aligning and I was on top of the world.
I had the love of my life, I had a chef and I was expecting my first child. Everything happened so quickly and naturally. I can only say the universe knew this was my path, all I had to do was set my intention and let the rest happen. Today I am known as Mama to two beautiful girls who get this, have Pete’s long amazing eyelashes.