How We Met
Kevin and I met online through Match.com in January 2015. He liked a photo of me tailgating with my Gator football purse. I decided to check out his profile and learn more about him. I could tell that he put effort into writing his profile and I thought he was nice to look at also so I decided to send him a message. That started a series of thoughtful e-mails over a time frame of three weeks and we asked one another meaningful questions to get to know each other. Since we didn’t live in the same city we had a virtual meet up through Skype. We talked for an hour and a half and I thought he was cool and sophisticated because he was drinking a glass of wine during our Skype session. We had our first date a week later at Panera in my town. As I got out of my car, I looked to the sky and prayed and asked that whatever God’s will in all of this would prevail. We met at 6:30 on a Thursday evening and we didn’t leave until after 9:00. We didn’t know that Panera was closing because our conversation topics seemed endless. At the end of the date Kevin asked if he could see me again and offered to drive to my city which is over an hour outside of his town. I accepted but truth be told I was a little hesitant in doing so because I was overwhelmed with the decision if this relationship was something that I truly wanted to pursue. I had done online dating off and on for six years and this was the first time I had met someone in person and went on an actual date. I thought a second date would help to make up my mind. I suggested meeting at Carrabas restaurant but then later changed my mind to Chilli’s and texted the address to Kevin. I changed my mind because I was worried that Carrabas was too “romantic” in terms of setting and I wanted to keep the atmosphere fun, casual and lighthearted. (Sidenote: this has now become a fun joke between Kevin, myself and friends about Carrabas being too romantic of a restaurant.) We had a good second date and I found that Kevin was someone that I could easily talk to and we share many common interests. We were very upfront and honest with each other about what we were looking for in a relationship. Kevin chose our third date: Valentine’s Day! So as you can imagine if I was worried about Carrabas being too romantic of a venue that I was nervous about having a date on Valentine’s Day! I even tried to talk him out of it and meeting the next day instead but he said that Saturday (Valentine’s Day) would be better for his schedule. I drove to Kevin’s town in Orlando and he took me to Maggiano’s for a late lunch/early dinner and then we went for a walk down Park Avenue in Winter Park. We were at a cross walk and the light changed for pedestrians to cross and he took my hand and he held it as we crossed the street. I felt my cheeks get flushed and we held hands for the rest of evening. He showed me two different candy store boutiques for me to pick out candy for Valentine’s Day or a third option was to go to a cup cake bakery. I hands down chose the latter because cupcakes are my favorite! At the end of the evening he gave me a bouquet of flowers. He planned a very nice Valentine’s Day for me and I could tell that he was a nice guy who cared about me and respected me. I didn’t have any doubts about him or the direction of our relationship after that.
how they asked
There were a few occasions where I had envisioned as potential engagement opportunities. One such occasion was when Kevin took me to visit New York City for my first time. We had only been dating for three and a half months but by then I was already certain that he was the one I wanted to share the rest of my life with at my side. When it didn’t happen I reminded myself that it was silly and too soon for a proposal. The second time I thought Kevin may ask for my hand in marriage was when we went to Magic Kingdom the first time together for Fourth of July. He and I both love Disney so I thought that could be the time and the place for “popping the question”. When it didn’t happen again I reminded myself that I would drive myself insane with these ambitious engagement schemes and I told myself no more. When it happens, it will happen.
Kevin had a very special surprise birthday weekend planned for me. Friday we went to Epcot for Food and Wine Festival but he wanted to take me through the back entrance where the hotel resorts are. We walked along the Boardwalk and he pointed out an area where there are weddings and wanted me to see more of the site. We looked at the river and he asked me to close my eyes. When he asked me to open them he was down on one knee holding the ring and asked “will you marry me?” I thought I was hallucinating and I could hardly believe what I was seeing. My heart was racing and I immediately said yes! And he said, “you will?” It was a very private moment, just the two of us. Hardly anyone was around at 9:30 in the morning. We hugged and kissed and then made our way towards the back entrance of Epcot. As we were walking and holding hands that’s when it really hit me and I started to cry. I asked Kevin if he had asked for my father’s permission, something that was important to me and we had discussed and he said that he had asked a couple of weeks beforehand. I had no idea Kevin was going to propose before my birthday. “When it happens, it will happen.”
It’s been truly surreal but I am so excited to spend the rest of my life with Kevin. He is a good man and my life is better with him in it.