Catesby and Jacob

how we met

I was a recent college grad living in the “Fan” neighborhood (a fun area with a great bar scene) in Richmond, VA, in a house with a very active social schedule. However, through all that fun, I never seemed to meet a guy that I had much of a spark with. I had chatted online with Jacob off and on over a couple of months, and on June 21, 2014, decided to meet him for a cup of coffee. I don’t know if it was love at first sight, but I will never forget the joy in his smile, and the excitement in his wave as we approached each other outside of the Lamplighter coffee shop halfway between our apartments. We greeted each other, ordered our drinks, and went for a walk around the city. We ended up walking, exploring, and talking for hours, and by the end we both knew that this was the start of something special.

how they asked

For years, we had joked that it was Jacob’s responsibility to propose to me. He was going to have to ask my parents and the whole-nine-yards. Even our friends and neighbors knew. He is a high school choir director, so he wanted to plan something fun with his students to surprise me. We were watching the 2019 Tony Awards and learned about the musical “The Prom” about a gay teenager and the Broadway actors who swoop into her small town and try to force the community to allow her girlfriend to be her date to the prom. We loved the number they performed on TV and would later fall in love with the soundtrack.
We looked at our schedule for the summer, and realized if we were going to go it had to be soon. We book our tickets for June 21. Jacob was excited about the trip, but overwhelmed with end-of-the-year activities at school and so I took care of most of the planning. When it hit me that we were going to be going to see such a relevant show on the five year anniversary of us meeting, I started to realize that this might be the perfect opportunity to propose. I began messaging with friends in New York or who had a connection with Broadway, messaging the show and the theater itself on Facebook, and trying to figure out how I could make this happen in about 10 days.

Special Thanks

Kenneth Gronquist
Second Shooter
Times Square
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