how we met
My now husband and I met on a blind date. We both grew up in small towns, and it was very refreshing to meet someone that didn’t know anyone we grew up with. Even though we didn’t grow up in the same town, we related to each other in many ways and found our differences fascinating. We talked on the phone a few times before we met and our conversations were always fun and interesting. When we met for our first date, it wasn’t at all uncomfortable. On a chilly December evening Ryan arrived at my house in his old tan colored Acura, I still remember the light scent of men’s cologne spritzed in the air vents. I remember telling him I liked his outfit, I asked him if it was new. His shoes were in mint shape. He told me they weren’t new, but I knew better. Later in the evening, I found out we actually went shopping at the same store just moments apart before he picked me up, the irony made us both laugh. That evening we drove around and decided to go and look at Christmas lights. We started off by getting ourselves some hot cocoa and walked around Lake Compounce to see the holiday lights. We enjoyed these lights so much that we went over to Hubbard Park to see those lights. We still weren’t ready to part, so we decided to go see a movie. This was where we shared our first kiss. I wasn’t quite ready to take this next step in our relationship so soon and I let Ryan know that I thought we might be moving too quickly. He was nothing but respectful and understood how I felt.
After this, we went on several more dates together and I eventually met his family. Like I mentioned before I was afraid to have him meet my family too soon, I was afraid to let my guard down but the more I got to know Ryan the more I realized that he was truly a kind and genuine person in every single way. He would come over and shovel off my dad’s car after a blizzard. He would meet me at my house after work just to see me even if it was for a little while. He would open the door for me to get in and out of the car. So many things I had no clue men even did. He and I wanted to tell each other we loved each other from the very beginning, I think we both knew, I was afraid to admit it to myself & he was afraid to admit it to me. There were a couple times where the “L” word slipped out. We were watching tv together one night on his tiny little yellow couch and at this point we were finally comfortable doing couple things like kissing and holding hands. During a commercial he kissed me and he told me “I love you” suddenly he lifted his chin, moved his face away from mine with his eyes nearly bulging out of his head and said “I.. meant.. Commercials!” “Commercials?” I said laughing. Ugh yea I meant I love commercials because we kissed during commercials and not the show.” The next night after that we hung out again after work and he dropped me off at my house, walked me to my doorstep. We kissed again and I told him “I love you.” Then my eyes nearly bulged out of my head and I shouted “COMMERCIALS!” We laughed so hard.
The first time he told me he loved me (in a meaningful way!) we had gone up to Vermont for the weekend to go snowboarding. We walked around a few antique shops and he noticed I had my eye on this one antique watch. He bought it without my knowing and when we got back to the snow lodge he told me he loved me, and that he would forever and handed me the delicate little watch. I told him I loved him too. The night I truly knew for certain that Ryan was the one, was the night he laid blankets on the roof and surprised me by having a date night to watch the most incredible meteor shower. The truth is it really is those small things that don’t cost a dime that mean the most. The fact that he went out of his way to make sure I saw my first meteor shower was the sweetest thing anyone ever did for me. The one thing people don’t really tell you about love is that sometimes you are unwilling to see it because fear blocks your vision. I grew up with a lot of emotional trauma that revolved around love. So it took me a while to learn to believe in it and trust in it. The further into our relationship we got the more I realized Ryan had also been scarred by past relationships. The way he diligently worked to tear my walls down, I also worked to tear down his. The one thing I know for certain is that if another person truly loves you they will fight to tear down every wall you’ve ever built, love conquers every fear & defies all odds.
how they asked
On July 18th 2014, Ryan and I became engaged. I had no clue he was going to ask me! Ryan and I were on a cross country road trip that we had saved up for an entire year. One day we decide to go hiking at Cathedral Rock in Sedona, AZ. It was a strenuous hike – the climb was 7,000 ft. on a scorching hot day! In the end the view was worth it. As I sat down to take it all in, Ryan set up his camera on his phone .. I thought he was trying to take a self-timed shot of the both of us since we had made it to the top and there was not a single soul in sight to ask to take a photo for us. He called me over and when I stood next to him at the edge of the tall red rocks he asked me to marry him. I said yes & it is the best decision I have ever made. I feel like the luckiest woman alive. This September we celebrated our 3rd anniversary. This shoot was extra special to the both of us because it was really fun to see each other in full wedding attire just before our anniversary!! Cheers to many more years of love and happiness! xo