Bailey and Josue
How We Met
Although I kept denying my roommate’s offer to set me up with one of her Coffee Bean customers, ironically I met the guy (Josue) when I made a coffee stop on my drive down to Mexico.
He was curious what I was doing with a car full of belongings and I explained that I was moving to be a caregiver of 80 kiddos at an orphanage. As time went on he became my biggest supporter and we got to know each other when he started crossing the border every week to help me rescue kiddos from the garbage dump… eventually, helping me care for my 3 foster babes, who doctors thought were too malnourished to live and are now full of life and thriving!
When I moved back from Mexico and we started officially dating I had the great opportunity of loving on his daughter and helping him do all the motherly things when she was with daddy, later becoming her “heart mom”.
how they asked
There were only 2 things I asked of him. 1.That my nails be painted. 2.That he wouldn’t propose on a cliche holiday. Thankfully my nails were done, because he popped the question on Valentine’s Day of all days. I know now that this was his only chance in surprising me, and the way he set up the whole day made it the best day of my life so far (I even forgot what day it was).
He gave me time to get ready for a “Valentine’s dinner”, but texted me before the pick up time saying that I needed to check my car… this is where I found the first clue of the scavenger hunt that led me to all the locations that are most significant to our relationship. The scavenger hunt ended at Coffee Bean and Josue was sitting at the same table where we first met the day I was moving to Mexico. He gave me a dozen roses and drove me to the Terranea Resort, and I thought the big surprise was going to a fancy shhmansy dinner.
When we arrived the restaurant told us we had some time before our reservation, so I asked Josue if we could walk around to see the amazing view. When we made it to a beautiful lookout point, Josue read me the most heart-felt and affirming poem that he wrote for me, and I cried ugly tears as he got down on one knee.
Even before marriage it feels that we’ve gone through the fire. We’ve dealt with long distance, raising a step child, foster parenting, housing struggles, missional needs, finacial problems, racism, health problems, employment issues, schooling challenges, community shifts and so on… so saying “yes” was more than just an excited response to a long-awaited question, but a relief to know that I will be stepping into a marriage with a man who will love me well through all the stuff of life.