How We Met: I started college in August 2008 and joined EKTAA, a South-Asian club on campus, and was paired up with Hersh on the production committee. For the first several months, we were constantly arguing and disagreeing but eventually a wonderful friendship blossomed. In September 2009, he asked me out at the first football game of the season and we were inseparable. We continued to work together through EKTAA and we saw a ton of ups and downs throughout college.
In March 2012, after he graduated from college, he moved to Los Angeles, California. We have been long distance for about 3 years now and cannot wait to get married and be together again!
how they asked: On Friday, Aug. 29, 2014, my best friend got down on one knee on NC State’s campus and asked me to be his wife. Since then, I have felt like the luckiest girl alive.
For Labor Day Weekend, Hersh and I planned to fly back to North Carolina and spend the weekend with our friends and family. It also happened to be our 5-year anniversary. To celebrate, he said he had a really great date planned for us on Friday and that it will be casual. It was anything but.
Because he said it was going to be casual I put on shorts and a top and luckily asked his opinion before I left the house. He insisted that I wear a dress or something nicer because we’d be going to dinner later and he didn’t want to wait for me to change. After several outfit changes, I wore a black dress and picked him up at 12. We went to Frankie’s Fun Park, a mini-golf and go-carting place that we used to frequent when we had just started dating and we had a blast! He beat me at golf, being the patient and calculative man that he is, and I beat him at go-carts, being the aggressive and ruthless woman I am!
We had a quick lunch and then he dropped a bomb on me: Don’t be mad but I have a conference call I can’t get out of at 5 p.m. today. The day before, my friend Khevna had said she wanted to see me and I told her I’d try to find some time. I had no idea, but Hersh had prearranged that set up, and I met Khevna for coffee while Hersh tended to his “conference call”.
Around 6 p.m. when I left the coffee house, Khevna looked panicked and said “Oh my god! My ring! My grandmother’s ring! I can’t find it anywhere! Avani, can you help me look?” Shouting at Khevna for being so careless, I helped her look in her car and she suggested that I look in the glove compartment. There, propped up in plain sight was an envelope with my name on it.
Confused, I opened it up and in Hersh’s handwriting was a thoughtful message about the last five years and how he wanted to take a trip down memory lane. My first stop was the place where we first met. I turned to look at Khevna and she had a rose in her hand for me and said “Ok, where are we going?”
Khevna and I drove to the FYC Commons, the benches where Hersh and I first met. There, my friend Nazla was waiting with a rose and another envelope. After I stopped shaking, I read the next note that had an amazing message about the first time we met and a clue to the next stop: Sullivan Dorm.
We power-walked across campus, Nazla trying to keep me calm and me worrying about my lack of waterproof mascara, and met our friends, Ryne and Meredith, outside of the dormitory with a rose each and another envelope. The note was deeply personal and brought me to tears because by this point I knew what was going on. The next clue led me to the place where Hersh had asked me out: Bragaw Dorm.
At Bragaw, my friend Janaki was waiting with a rose and the final clue accompanied by yet another moving message from Hersh. The last clue told me to go to the Court of Carolinas and when I got there, Hersh was standing at the very top in the middle of a giant sign that read “Will You Marry Me?”
I had to use every ounce of self-control I had to not run up to him (I was wearing heels and was nearly guaranteed to fall flat on my face). When I finally got to him, he said that the journey so far was about the past but he was ready to see what the future had in store for us. He got on one knee and pulled out the most beautiful ring I had ever seen, and just like that, I was a fiancé!
After taking a ton of pictures with all of my friends, we all went to dinner to celebrate. Mom and Dad met up with us to say congratulations, and we took a trip to see my new mother-in-law and father-in-law late that evening. Since then, we both have been nothing but smiles and are beyond excited to start this beautiful journey together. I know that I couldn’t ask for a better partner.