Cali and Oggi
It’s funny how fate brings things into your life when you need them, not necessarily when you want them. I had just graduated from nursing school, with a world of opportunities at my feet. I had a wedding to go to in California, and since I had never been before, my sister Srivi and I decided to take a vacation out of it for a few days to kick back, relax, and celebrate this huge accomplishment. We stayed with some really good family friends and while we were there met various people but didn’t think much of it. It was a pretty uneventful trip, and we joked about how crazy it would be if we met the person we were going to marry on that trip. We both thought there was absolutely no way that would happen. Oh, how wrong were we. The family friends we stayed with had mutual friends who saw me and immediately thought of their friend who had a son that would be “perfect” for me.
Honestly, I was a little freaked out, but this is pretty common for Indian parents to do, and I was a little over it. But I wanted to be respectful to our family friends and my parents so I played along. And then our last day in California, we were introduced to Madhav’s parents. Conversations flowed but I didn’t think much of it. Before I even realized what was happening, Madhav and I were introduced and started talking. A few texts every so often turned to daily phone calls and FaceTime dates. Some words exchanged here and there quickly turned into conversations about life, our goals and dreams, plans for the future, our hardships and struggles, our successes, and what makes us who we are today. Every minute I spent with him felt natural and real like we had known each other our entire lives. We quickly became best friends and I realized that I couldn’t spend my life without him.
Annapurna had told me a long time ago that she hates surprises, but the one thing she had been thinking about since she was a little girl was how she dreamed of a surprise proposal. Annapurna also happens to be the most observant human of all time so this proved to be a challenge. I took on the challenge and sought the help of my sister and Annapurna’s sisters to find the perfect ring and started making plans. I had already made plans to fly out to Detroit to watch Hamilton The Musical with Annapurna. I made kind of a big deal of getting all dressy for the show.
I also enlisted the support of my parents, sister, and brother-in-law who flew out on the same early morning flight as me and hid in the airport until Annapurna picked me up. Annapurna and I had a relatively ordinary morning and got all jazzed up for the show. Spoiler, it was awesome. I was sure Annapurna could tell I had something on my mind but assumed I was just so mesmerized by the *AMAZING* show, even when I was shady and left her alone for a few after the show to make some calls.
Little did she know that during the show, her sisters had ventured to a beautiful local park where they created an ideal scene for the perfect proposal. I was a little surprised that Annapurna wasn’t more curious about the plans going forward and just assumed that she knew what was coming. Annapurna, on the other hand, was starting to get impatient. In any case, we made it to the park and eventually found the proposal scene where photos of Annapurna and I were strung along a tree-lined with lights. I made a little speech and popped the question with a stealthy photographer capturing the whole thing. All parents and siblings joined to finish the surprise and capped off this special day with a delicious dinner (pizza! yummm).
In the following weeks, we were able to celebrate our engagement with all our friends and family with a very traditional Hindu engagement ceremony called a Nischithardam where we made things officially official. We’re so excited to keep the celebrations going this year as we start this new chapter of our lives together!
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