Alexandra and Austin
How We Met
October 2, 2010. The day I met the man I’m going to marry. If you would have asked me that day if I would ever see him again, I would have laughed in your face. Let me take it from the start…
I had plans to go to Florida with a friend that weekend and decided 2 days prior that I just didn’t want to miss my college homecoming game enough to go. So I bailed and headed out to my Sorority tailgate to cheer on our school for the homecoming game. While at the tailgate I decided it was my job to encourage people to shot gun beers. What can I say? It was college! During my stint as shot gun director I approached Austin. We had a beer together and it turns out that he was an honorary attendee because he was not a member of the Fraternity we were tailgating with. After speaking to him for all of 30 seconds, I went on my way. Fast forward several hours…I’m walking out of my Sorority house with my friend to go get a snack before we get ready to go back out. As I approached the street I see 2 guys lurking at the edge of the property. One of them ended up being Austin and he gently touched my arm and said “Hey, do you remember me?”. Truthfully I couldn’t remember where I knew his face but I knew I wanted to know him more, he was beautiful! So I said yes. After some brief chatting and flirting he asked me for my number. I was hesitant because I was never one to give out a real number but something about him was so enticing. After giving him my number we parted ways and for the rest of the night I could not get his crooked smirk and piercing eyes out of my mind. Fast forward AGAIN several hours…I go to a Fraternity party with my girlfriends. As I’m walking around the house trying to disregard the sticky floors and crowded rooms I feel someone grab my arm. There he was again. We talked again but only for a brief time, he wanted to venture off and I wanted to leave. As far as I was concerned, that was it. I thought I would never see him again. Shortly after I arrived back at my Sorority house I get a phone call. It was Austin and he wanted to see me. Once again, I could not seem to resist so I invited him over. After hanging out in the foyer into the early morning hours it was time to call it a night. I didn’t want to see him go but my eyes were heavy, my legs hurt because we were standing that whole time, and people were beginning to wake up. After he left I went to sleep with a smile on my face and butterflies in my stomach.
After several days went by and I hadn’t heard anything I figured he wasn’t interested in me and I put him out of my head. Then the day came where he reached out to me again saying he wanted to see me. I wanted to play hard to get and tell him I was busy, but I decided I was not going to play games and so I saw him again. After he waited again to call me I decided that was it. I was no longer available to meet up but I would let him know if he wanted to see me he could stop by where I was but could not stay because I had “things to do”. That must have really intrigued him because he finally asked me to hang out, with notice. He asked me to go to his house (at the time he was commuting from his parents house) so we could study. After studying for some time and having some real conversations he got out his guitar and started to sing to me. SWOON. I absolutely melted. After this night we spent every night together. The college library was open 24 hours for finals so that was our meeting place. We would sit and study all night together and during the day we would drive around and go to the mall or sit in the car just to spend time together because neither of our homes were convenient to hang out. We never wanted to leave each other’s side. This went on until February 20, 2011. As we were sitting together and giggling over nothing, he asked me to be his girlfriend and we haven’t looked back since.
how they asked
On the Wednesday prior to our engagement, Austin asked me if I wanted to go out to dinner that Friday. Being that we’ve been seeing each other for almost 6 years, we live together, and marriage has been a topic of discussion I am very suspicious of anything out of the ordinary. The fact that he asked me to go to dinner with 2 days notice and we don’t go out to dinner very often because we meal prep was something I found odd so I asked him why he wanted to do dinner. He said he was really in the mood for Thai food so he wanted to go to our favorite Thai restaurant. I am never one to pass up a good Thai dish so I asked what time and when he responded 5:00 P.M. I got REALLY suspicious, I get out of work at 4:30 P.M. and I am not one to rush. Figuring that he wouldn’t have a good answer I asked him why he wanted to go to dinner so early and he responded that the weather was supposed to be beautiful and he figured after dinner we could do something outside. His response threw me off, so I put my disappointment aside and instead spent the next 2 days feeling excited that he was taking me on a planned date.
Friday, May 20, 2016. My day couldn’t have been more off. I could not sleep the night before because I was having uncomfortably vivid dreams of him proposing. Convincing myself all day that “today was not the day” I didn’t worry that I was having a bad hair day and I had bags under my eyes from exhaustion. After I came home from work to quickly change and fix myself up I noticed he was so beyond calm and natural so once again, I knew it wasn’t happening. Austin decided to switch his watch that day, not realizing his chosen watch had a dead battery. While at dinner, he kept checking his not working watch and I figured he was just checking out of habit and agitation that it was not working. After prolonging our time at the restaurant he finally suggested we leave. I asked where he wanted to go and he suggested we get ice cream at the boardwalk. I agreed because, well…ice cream. As we were driving he says “You know what, I have a better idea.” I asked him where we were going and he told me not to worry about it.
We finally arrive at our destination, a bench overlooking the water which used to be “our spot”, carved initials and all. As we’re sitting there and I’m trying not to complain because I was chilly I noticed a woman approaching us with a violin. Being completely oblivious and easily creeped out, I nudge Austin and say “Babe, there’s a weirdo with a violin walking over here.” He laughs and looks away. The woman begins to play and I begin to laugh…wondering what is wrong with this lady and why is she playing near us. Talk about over my head. As I’m laughing at the woman I look to my left and see a man snap a picture of us. STILL doesn’t register. So I say, “Austin, what the hell is that guy taking a picture of us for?!”. Austin begins to laugh and stands up and my heart began to race. “NO YOU’RE NOT! NO YOU’RE NOT!”, I screamed as tears began to pour out of my face. “Yes I am”, he replies as he smiles, reaches into his pocket, and gets down on one knee. He then said, “Alexandra, will you marry me?”. He could have had an empty box because all I saw was him, asking me the question I had waited so long for. Of course I said yes and he handed me the box. I laughed and said “put the ring on my finger” and his response was “which finger?”. After informing him of what to do I cried and cried and cried and laughed. I’ve never seen him radiate with so much love and I’ve never seen him orchestrate anything so well without my knowing. All of the little quirks made the moment more perfect than I could have ever dreamed and now we can share those moments for the rest of our lives.