Alex and Cole
How We Met
Cole and I met when I was 10 years old, and he was 11. As cheesy as it sounds, I truly believe I know that I wanted to marry him as soon as I met him! We met in my hometown at the church that he and I both still attend to this day. We became good friends. By the time I was 11 years old, we were spending time together regularly with a group of two other friends and ourselves. Slowly, the group of friends dissolved, but Cole and I continued to spend time together and grow closer. We weren’t attending the same school at the time, and I was very unhappy in the school that I was currently attending. When I was in 7th grade, Cole suggested that I apply to get into the school that he was attending.
After one application, I was accepted, and although we weren’t in the same grade, we were over the moon to be able to be at the same school! We dated for just shy of 5 and a half years before he proposed. We have been through big milestones together such as both of our graduations, we have experienced happy times and times of brokenness and sadness; such as experiencing the sudden loss of a friend or family member. We’ve been through the awkward puberty stages all the way through to finishing my first and his first and second years of university.
When I was 13 and he was 14, Cole asked me to be his girlfriend on Valentine’s Day of 2014. It was no surprise to anyone, everyone had been watching us for years and knew that we would eventually date! We continued to grow closer and get to know each other. We often talked about marriage even at a young age. We always just sort of always knew that we were meant to be together. The older we got, the more we started to seriously think about the idea of getting married. At 18, I started looking around at rings. I always knew what I liked, but when I found my dream ring in person, the idea of a proposal started to feel so real. We looked at one ring, and he went back to buy it the next day. I knew that a proposal was coming, but I had no idea when!
How They Asked
The proposal finally happened in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, on July 11th of 2019. I’m now 19 years old, and he’s 20. I knew that he had bought the ring in February, and it was eating me up inside. I didn’t know when he was going to pull it out of his pocket! I was definitely surprised. I’ll be honest, I was fully 100% expecting him to propose on August 14th, our 5.5 year anniversary!
I had (not very subtly) hinted to Cole in the past that I would like a photographer to be there when we get engaged so that we could capture our reactions and emotions. It just so happens that Cole has a sister-in-law who is a talented photographer. The night that we got engaged, Cole and I had already been planning to spend the evening together. We had planned to do some of our favorite relaxing things: to cook supper together, play some cards, and just hang around my house together. But the day before we were going to spend the evening together, Cole’s brother send us a message asking if we wanted to go into Saskatoon, grab some ice cream, and have his wife, Monica, take some pictures of us. We both thought that it sounded like fun, so we agreed. My mind started racing with the thought of, “oh my gosh, what if he’s going to propose while we’re getting pictures done?”
I quickly decided that it was too soon for that to happen. I didn’t think that he had talked to my dad about it yet, (he had!) and eventually, after going back and forth in my mind for the whole day and most of the day we got engaged, I decided that it wasn’t going to happen. Still, I found myself checking the shape of his pockets to see if I could make out the shape of a ring box. There was nothing!
While we had originally planned to cook supper together at my house, Cole suggested that we go out to eat. He later admitted to me that he wanted to take me out because he was going to propose. After supper, we met up with the other couple and grabbed some ice cream. When we were finished, we walked down to the river in Saskatoon. Monica stopped us a few times along the way to grab some pictures in front of different trees and back drops. Although I was pretty sure it was not going to happen, my heart still raced with anticipation every time stopped, while I wondered if he was going to drop onto one knee.
When we reached a nice beachy area by the water, Monica suggested that she grab some pictures of just me.
She had me turn to face the water. At this point, it truly felt like my heart was beating out of my chest! In the last 30 seconds, before I turned around, I felt this unexplainable feeling of anticipation and excitement. I heard Cole’s brother whisper something to him, and I knew something was going on!
I heard Cole say my name. When I turned around, he was on one knee with the ring! While I stared at him in shock, he said the magic words: “will you marry me?”
People often ask me if I was surprised when he proposed. I knew that a proposal was coming. We both knew that we wanted to get married, and I knew that he had the ring. But nothing can prepare you for the rush of emotions when you see the love of your life on one knee, or when you hear them ask you to spend the rest of your life with them. Even though I knew that something was going on, it was still a surprise and an absolute rush. It was truly one of the best, most magical moments of my life. Anyone who knows me even the slightest bit will know that it doesn’t take much to get me emotional, so imagine how I felt at this moment!
Spoiler alert: Full. On. Waterworks.
To this day, over a month after our engagement, I still can’t believe that I’m marrying my elementary school sweetheart. Who would have thought that the boy I had a crush on at age 10 would be my soon-to-be husband?